A typical night…

Are you wondering why I haven’t been blogging much? Why I am exhausted and depressed? Why I need to sleep train my baby? Here is why… This is the outline of my night of “sleep”:

  • 19:15 – Put son to bed. Take advantage of quiet time in the house to get a good, uninterrupted feeding into baby
  • 19:45 – Put baby to bed. Check up on her a few times as she babbles until fading into sleep around 20:30
  • 22:00 – I go to bed. I know I should go to bed earlier, but I spent an hour and a half doing dishes. Sometimes it’s laundry. Sometimes it’s some baking that has to be done. Sometimes we do the menu and grocery list for the week. Sometimes we talk, because, you know, it’s the only chance we have to do it without being interrupted. We rarely get to the “cleaning the house” part. Last night, Zak was setting up Internet with a new provider as we switched to save money. And then after the chores were done, I did take 30 minutes for myself. Because, you know, it’s the only time I have all day, most days…
  • 23:00 – Zak goes to bed. If I was asleep, it wakes me up. Most days I’m still awake because, well, I know I’ll wake up anyway.
  • 0:00 – Baby wakes up. I feed her and put her back to bed.
  • 1:30 – Baby wakes up. I check her diaper and she’s wet, so I change her. I probably shouldn’t (I mean, come on, I need more than one and a half hour of sleep in a row!) but I forgot to put a stay-dry liner in her diaper so I feel guilty. I put her back to bed. She screams for a few minutes, then falls asleep.
  • 4:00 – Baby wakes up. I feed her. I’m so exhausted (since I have slept, what, 4 hours so far? In three different installments?) that I fall asleep with her at the breast.
  • 5:30 – I wake up. Baby is still at the breast. I put her back to sleep. She screams for a few minutes, then falls asleep.
  • 5:50 – Son wakes up screaming “Maman!”. I had just fallen back asleep. I get up to tell him that no, it’s not morning yet and yes, he has to go back to bed after he goes to the bathroom.
  • 5:55 – Baby wakes up, screams once or twice, then shuts up. I assume she’s sleeping.
  • 6:05 – Baby screams once or twice then shuts up again.
  • 6:10 – Baby does the same thing again.
  • 6:15 – Baby… Well, you get it.
  • 6:30 – Baby starts just crying non-stop. Me too.
  • 6:40 – I give up and get baby up and downstairs. Call it sacrifice: maybe if I get up with her Zak and our son will sleep? I don’t know if our son has fallen back asleep. But if he doesn’t sleep past 6, he’ll be a tyrant and in my current state, I won’t be able to deal with it.

Now, I know that 6:30 sounds like a reasonable time for a baby to get up, but so far, most days, she has been sleeping until about 8. I should probably get her to bed earlier and up earlier, but it’s hard since we are usually having supper from 18:00 to 19:00 (our son takes forever to eat), then it’s bed time for our son. I like being able to put our son to bed (and he likes it, too). So I would have to either not eat supper with everyone else in order to put her to bed, or I have to wait until he’s in bed. I can’t feed her during supper, she’s too distracted. And we don’t seem to manage to eat earlier. So she goes to bed around 20:00 on most days, and given the fact that she doesn’t nap for more than 30 minutes in a row during the day (which also precludes me from napping with her) I don’t think that she can get up at 6:30 and be happy. But I guess we’ll see today if I can get her to get up earlier and go to bed earlier. Who knows, maybe it’s the start of a new era. Or maybe it will just be one of those days you want to forget.

By the way, did you count my hours of sleep? Yeah, me neither. Too depressing.

4 Responses to “A typical night…”

  1. Anne Says:

    Has your daughter started eating cereals? Because for some babies, comes a time when milk just isn’t enough to get them trough the night. Just an idea… because I feel tired just reading what you go through.

  2. ta vieille mère Says:

    je pensais exactement la même chose; peut-elle avoir besoin de nourriture solide?

  3. Mireille Says:

    Moi, je n’ai pas de solutions pour toi, mais je compatis et si j’étais moins loin je t’offrirais de garder Elliot une journée (ou même une nuit) pour te laisser un peu d’air… Lâche pas, je sais que ça n’aide pas pour l’instant, mais encourage-toi en te disant que ce n’est que temporaire : ils finissent tous par vieillir!

    Pour t’aider à t’endormir plus vite lorsque tu te couche, tu peux peut-être essayer des méthodes de relaxation? Ce qui fonctionne pour moi, c’est de prendre conscience des parties de mon corps en commençant par l’intérieur de la bouche, les lèvres, les joues, la mâchoire, le nez, etc jusqu’aux orteils (si je me rends jusque là). Ça aide à garder l’esprit occupé plutôt que de le laisser angoisser sur le manque de sommeil ou ce que tu n’as pas eu le temps de faire dans ta journée. Je pense à toi-gros câlin d’encouragement!

  4. sophie Says:

    Ça se pourrait toujours mais je ne crois pas que ce soit une question de nourriture, en tout cas pas seulement, parce que quand elle se réveille 2 heures après un boire, elle n’a pas l’air affammée. Elle se rendort pratiquement tout de suite au sein, et dernièrement, si je la laisse pleurer, elle se rendort rapidement presque sans pleurer… Alors je crois qu’elle a juste besoin d’apprendre à se rendormir sans téter, même si elle n’aime pas ça. Ça va déjà mieux, ne vous inquiétez pas trop pour moi!