Father and Son

One of my purest joys since the birth of my son has been to watch my husband take care of him. Not because it allows me to rest (which is also nice), but because the conversations they have are probably the most entertaining thing I have ever heard.

Our baby is 4 months old, so of course he doesn’t understand anything, although of course we still have to talk to him. But to me it has never really come naturally: I talk to him because I know it’s good for him and I have too, but I have to make a conscious effort to speak my thoughts out loud. In my husband’s case, however, it seems to be second nature. He’ll chat with our son about anything, from the merits of this versus that toy to the way you cut the vegetables for supper. They have long conversations in which the baby even has his say (by way of Daddy translation, of course, but still).

When they’re chatting like that, I like to just sit back and listen. It’s tremendously funny. It’s also extremely touching. I know that I am lucky to have a husband who gets that involved in raising our son; not all daddies are like that. But there are more and more. And every time I see those young fathers actively taking care of their children, I can’t help but compare them to the role our fathers played in our lives and think that our children are lucky. I’m not saying that to blame our dads: they were a product of their times, just like our husbands are a product of ours. I’m just enjoying the change and thinking how much society has evolved.

The right way, I’d say. I’m sure my son will enjoy a much closer relationship with his dad than I had with mine when I was a child. And I’m sure that will be a positive influence in his life. So I’ll just sit back and listen. And laugh. And enjoy. And love those two handsome men…

3 Responses to “Father and Son”

  1. Danielle Says:

    Très touchant, tout ça! Très difficile de vivre pleinement la maternité lorsque le papa ne s’intéresse pas vraiment à cet enfant qui constitue une grande partie de notre vie! Je suis contente pour toi, pour vous trois, que ça se passe de cette façon!

  2. zakary Says:

    I don’t see what is so entertaining, about Elliot and me having a conversation, about the rat that is living in my ear… it is a serious matter! :-P

  3. Danielle Says:

    Zakary… Comment te dire… Il y a des choses que tu apprendras quand tu seras plus grand… en attendant, c’est peut-être les plus enfants qui font les meilleurs papas! ;)